Mourning The Loss
by deepinblue
Apr. 3rd, 2008 at 3:09 PM

Yesterday at 4 a.m. my grandmother, Sara Ruth, passed away. She had been suffering from cancer and finally succumbed to it. She was 83 years old and lived a long life and we are deeply saddened by her loss.

She had recently been getting hospice care from her home and Tuesday night things started to decline. She needed oxygen and morphine to be comfortable and eventually passed away. We are unsure at this point if there will be a funeral, most likely there won't, as my uncle is choosing to go against my grandmother's burrial wishes. He wants to cremate her instead of burrying her next to my grandfather as she wanted. My uncle is the sole person who is in charge of taking care of any funeral arrangements and we fear he has already taken care of her body and turned it into ashes. This is extremely disheartening to us all as we want to properly mourn the loss of our grandmother.

My mom, sister, and I are going to go to synagogue tomorrow night to say some prayers. I am extremely upset over this whole situation with the family, it's taking a big toll on me, and I am going to go speak to my therapist tomorrow night before going to synagogue. Hopefully going to synagogue can bring us some closure. We already know that my grandmother is well taken care of and has been reunited with her family in the after life. My cousin Ken has been speaking with her and she knows how much all of us loved her.

My grandmother had been going downhill with her health for some time, most recently it was bad, so we had been calling her every day. We weren't particularly close with my grandmother, she lived in Maryland and we live in Florida. But, we would call her and keep in touch even after my parents divorced. In death, people should forget all of the bad that happened and just focus on the love and grief and come together. I wish my family could do that.

My uncle and my dad are both being horribly harsh and disrespectful and it really reminds me why I have nothing to do with either. I tried to call my aunt yesterday afternoon and my cousin answered and hung up on me. My mom tried to call my uncle's house last night and was hung up on twice. My father is too concerned with his own health right now, which isn't great, but he's also being incredibly rude and uncouth.

Family is family no matter how you treated them or they treated you. We are all in a time of need and sorrow right now, I hope we can come together and cherish the person we loved dearly.